Valentine’s Day is all about love, kisses, diamonds, chocolates, and roses. It is a holiday to make singles feel cast aside and for couples to stress out. Our minds fill with a myriad of phrases like “What should I get him? Should I go for diamonds or chocolates? Will he forget? What if she hates this?” I was single once, and I despised this holiday along with all of the chocolates and red or pink roses that accompanied it.
Now, as a mommy of three, Valentine’s Day no longer is only about my husband and me. It is also about the love that forms the foundation for our family. My husband and I work on our love daily, because it is reflected in our children, and it teaches them what constitutes a healthy relationship. We are not perfect, but we can see the results in how our children treat each other.
The major problem I have with Valentine’s Day or any other holiday is how large corporations have commercialized them. It no longer is about YOU the person. It is more about how to best manipulate your pocket book. It almost seems like these companies want you to buy your love, and they want to you go all out to do it, often beyond your own means. Retail giants make you feel as if Valentine’s Day is your only opportunity in the year to show your love, and if you do not purchase something big, you will blow it and be in the doghouse for the rest of the year. This is unhealthy and we should not be made to feel like a relationship hinges on whether you spend beyond what you can afford on diamonds or give just a card and a few roses.
Love does not occur once a year on February 14, or at least it should not. Showing love and affection is a daily need, and it does not require you to break the bank. Giving your significant other hugs, kisses or even simple touches can make their day. Buying cheap grocery store flowers, like my husband does a couple times a month, will make your dining room table beautiful and also light up a girl’s life.
Go ahead and celebrate Valentine’s Day. We still do as a couple and also with our children too (see Kid’s Valentine’s Day ideas post). Spread your love, however, throughout the year and make it last. Valentine’s Day should be more than commercialized gifts and the money you spend. It should be a day to reflect on the love you show throughout the year. It is about love, not diamonds.